What can you actually do for me?
I can help you feel validated, cared for, embodied, powerful and capable. I can show you a path for healing and self exploration.
I can help you rediscover and remember yourself.
What can I do for you?
In the 12 years that I have worked intimately with the physical and emotional bodies people live in, I have noticed a few patterns. Our life experiences (pain, stories, traumas, authorities), often leave us falsely believing that the whole world seems to know the "best way" to be in our body, solve our body's aches and pains, on how to birth our babies, to parent, how to have the best sex, how to be in relationship, etc, etc. People feel overwhelmed, vulnerable and disconnected to their own body's brilliant intuition and instructions. Our society has created such a disconnect from our bodies, that we view the body as a betrayer, both foreign and scary - especially when everyone keeps telling us what is best for us!
I am here to help you cut through the noise. Picture it: time to be safely in your body, cared for in peaceful space, void of fear, worry and other people's judgements. And what emerges: Your powerful voice. Your trust in yourself and your amazing body. Here is what working with me means:
In Massage and Birth Work:
integrative massage therapy where the clients co-create treatment plans with me
stretching and simple body mechanics adjustments to eliminate pain in your daily living
spinning-babies influenced myofacial support to live balanced in your body
evidence based education to inform your health care decisions
connection to your inherent body knowledge
reconnecting and reusing your well honed life skills for healing
transferring your relationship skills to emotional support
re-framing your relationship with your body
feel validated and supported
support navigating all the decisions you need to make without judgement or agenda
having a sounding board as you figure it all out
connections to resources that can help you
a whole lot of laughter and joy
Birth Specific Care:
full spectrum services- care for all pregnancy and postpartum experiences, including abortion, adoption, surrogacy, miscarriage and stillbirth
feel prepared for parenthood
baby proofing your sex life and relationships
So so much fun - because, why not?!
What am I all about?
If I could teach every person in the whole world one thing it would be: You own your body and you get to decide what happens to it. All of my work is built upon this sole concept. (That- and that your body is not out to get you.)
When accessing healthcare, people often inadvertently look to care provider to show us how to heal our bodies or birth our babies. This is unfair to yourself and your provider! It's your body - you decide! How would you feel about your body if you felt in control of the decision making about your body? How would you access information? How would you interface with your care team? How would you teach those around you to support you? What tools would you reach for? How would it feel to be deeply safe and deeply embodied within yourself? How would it feel if you trusted yourself?
This is what happens when Individuals take their power back and have the agency for every decision about their body:
they expect compassionate and consenting care
they have healthier relationships
they have better sex (there is even science to back this up)
they reach out to support other individuals
they model balance, agency, and healthy boundaries, and consent for their community
they expect safe boundaries and consent in all relationships
they have more satisfying births- no matter what happens (there is science for this one too)
they have safer and healthier births (again, science)
they take the pressure off their care team to decide FOR them
they create partnerships and community
they feel embodied
Ready to feel this in your body?
your relationship with your body is physical, mental, emotional, sexual intersection of so many different aspects of your life. You deserve to be educated about what your body needs and feel powerful and free!
My goal is to all the clear the clutter and help you connect YOUR UNIQUE dots, so you can transition away from worry, doubt, shame, judgement, trauma into feeling embodied, powerful, wild, and free of pain- with support, consenting compassionate care and so much laughter and love.
Embodied living and Birthing is about:
Get ready to Embrace your new NORMAL
I started to become passionate about birth when I was pregnant with my son in 2005. I worked in public health at the National Association of Community Health Centers in different capacities since college (SUNY at Geneseo), and had a huge personal passion in sexuality and reproductive health (Our Bodies, Our Selves, anyone?) - I felt that preparing for birth would come easy to me.
Then I met with my (first) provider.
I got a lot of "we'll allow you to..." or "as long is that (desire I had) doesn't get in the way of my show". After my husband shared my birth was in fact MY show, we thanked him for his time and started to search for a way that made more sense for us. (FOR ME - this turned out to be hospital based midwifery care for my first kid, and a homebirth with a CNM with my second kid. It may be something totally different for you).
I was having a baby, it didn't mean I wanted to be treated like a baby. Not only is this treatment steeped in misogyny, it's a major pet peeve. I might have been a clueless new pregnant person who didn't know what I didn't know - but last time I checked, pregnancy is not a condition that erased my ability to inform myself. I wanted collaborative care because bottom line- women know their bodies.
So I started to learn. And I was so blown away by the human body and all the many ways you could talk about birth - from the biological, cultural, sexual, political.... - that I started to teach. (This may have started with me telling every persona with a uterus that they will probably poop when pushing out their baby. The curriculum has grown since then. Honestly!)
Eventually that teaching expanded to doula care, speaking, counseling, a whole lot of advocacy and community building. Rather than shaming women with a right or wrong way to birth- women need to support figuring out what works best for them. They need the evidence to make informed decisions that are supported implicitly by their care team. They need validation. They need space to behave like the mammals they are. Basically- It's your vagina - you decide what happens to it. It's like an awesome Choose Your Own Adventure for your vagina!
So my shift in life after my oldest kid was born was not just my shift into motherhood. It was a shift in how I walked in this world. It changed how I showed up for my family, community and myself. Birth taught me this. Watching individuals during this transition is one of the best reminders of how we are much more capable that we can ever imagine.
Birth work has been a guide how I live:
embrace your powerful voice
trust in yourself and (especially) your body
there is always time for laughter (even at 9cm)
build a tight and supportive community
give and receive knowledge and wisdom regularly
ask for help
be in your integrity
live in service to others, but not at the expense of yourself
give your time, money, goods...it'll come back to you
learn about life all over again through the wisdom of your kids
with love...SO MUCH LOVE
share what you are good at
Other Fun Kate Facts:
I live with my husband and two kids in the idyllic Ithaca, NY.
I've been with my partner in crime, who is always called NickJ (all one word) for 20 years!
We have two awesomely love-able kids who both make us laugh and drive us crazypants.
I have two dogs, Michael Mitchel and Helen Destroy who also make us laugh and drive us crazypants.
I have two amazing and hilarious older brothers (Peaches and Tio Tortio) and a sister-in-law (Chief) who call me: Vagina Witch, Lady Moon, or KateD.
I enjoy laughing, hugs, sharp whit, tough love, using the back door of a house, chocolate, nicknames....and long walks on a beach.
I come from a family of educators (parents, in-laws, brothers, husband, sister-in-law, and cousin).
I've completed a few triathlons, a half marathon and swims across Cayuga Lake and Mirror Lake in the ADKs. (They are good reminders of how strong and capable my body is).
Listening to music while I'm swimming is next to nirvana.
I am always actively reminding myself that sharks are awesome, help keep our oceans balanced, and don't lives in lakes.
If you have either an orangutan or basset hound, there is a REALLY good chance I'll try to take it from you.
I am always learning, shifting and changing with the love and support of my friends, partner and kids holding up a mirror to show me how.
Kate Dimpfl is a massage therapist, professional birth worker and change agent. As the owner and founder of Holistic Childbirth and founding member of the Ithaca Doula Collective, she helps women access the compassionate, empowered and evidence based care they deserve. Kate received her training with the Childbirth Education Association of Metropolitan New York, DONA International, A Mother Is Born, and her counseling accreditation is through Dr. Gayle Peterson, and most recently her LMT certification through Finger Lakes School of Massage. She is a frequent presenter at Cornell University, is a TEDx presenter, was featured in VICE Magazine and The Katie Couric Show. Her philosophy is that people have the inherent knowledge, agency to make decisions for their baby, body, and in birth. Everyone deserves the support to find the tools they need to feel safe and at home in their body. In addition to her business, she also co-founded the Ithaca Childbearing Loss Network, co-created the Ithaca Children's Garden Bulb Labyrinth Memorial Garden, and served on the board of the Ithaca Children’s Garden and BirthNet of the Finger Lakes.